Sunday, November 27, 2011

The Nude Singer: the end (?)

To all my fans, my latest posted picture has landed me a 30-day block by Facebook (the longest yet) and The Nude Singer on Facebook is no longer an accessible page as of today. Isn't it ironic what Facebook did in the face of the message the site is trying to put out there? I am unsure at this moment if it would be reactivated at the end of this block but I am not optimistic about it. I have previously written about how I would feel towards this day's eventuality so I will not cover old ground here. Suffice to say, this event has been predicted and I am thus fully-prepared for it.

If this is indeed the end of The Nude Singer, I would like to thank all you fans for your love, support and encouragement. I will never forget all of you. Please keep The Nude Singer's spirit alive in all your hearts. As a sign of protest and indignation over how my ideals got thrashed, as well as a way to contain this flooding sense of release, here is my full-nude debut just for you loyal loving fans. Facebook prudes, you are so fucking missing out.

The Nude Singer, out.

Saturday, November 26, 2011

Sydney vs Melbourne

Between living in Sydney for about three-and-a-half years and my personal observation when I was vacationing in Melbourne as well as what Melbournians have told me, I think I have a pretty good basis to come up with the Sydney versus Melbourne table, not that I need it to decide which city is better to live in (but still it is better to back decisions with actual numbers).

[Note: from a scale of 1 (worst) to 5 (best), “I” = importance, “S” = score, “T” = total (I x S)]


I
Sydney
S
T
Melbourne
S
T
2
Good beaches
5
10
Not-as-good beaches
1
2
Another good source of skin cancer
Not an issue as I am not a beach-goer
1
Iconic Opera House and Harbour Bridge
5
5
No major Australian icons
2
2
Been there and climbed that ie. I’m done with them
Not an issue as I am not a tourist
5
Poorer quality and selection of Southeast Asian food
2
15
Good Southeast Asian food
4
2
A huge problem seeing that I come from Southeast Asia
The only problem is that I have to be more careful watching my waistline
5
Public transport is unreliable and filthy
2
10
Better public transport
4
20
This is important if I were to continue staying in Sydney as I spend 3 hours commuting to work
Though important, it is still not as important as it is serious how bad Sydney’s public transport is since I can walk to work where I’ll be staying in Melbourne
2
City roads and development are messy and unplanned
2
4
Grid-format roads and organised city development
4
8
Not so significant but adds to general frustration
Reminds me of Manhattan of which I absolutely love
2
Boring architecture
2
4
Interesting architecture
4
8
Not something to fret about
A change in scenery from boring Sydney would be nice
5
Cost of housing in the city is getting obscenely ridiculous
2
10
Though expensive but not as compared to Sydney
3
15
This is paramount as I need to live in the city (as I can’t and don’t wish to drive) and am intending to buy property
Another ace-in-the-hole for Melbourne—cheaper properties mean that I can live even closer to the city in Melbourne
5
Jobs in my industry are dwindling
2
10
Many more job opportunities and projects in Melbourne
5
25
Career-suicide if I were to stay in Sydney in the long-term
Work and career is very important and we should all feel this way as that is where we spend half of our waking hours
4
People are racist and are so in-your-face
3
12
People are less in-your-face racist (but still are, I think)
4
16
A big problem and the in-your-face aspect makes it awkward too
Because it is less in-your-face, it feels less omnipresent and not as awkward as in Sydney
3
Less friendly people
3
9
Friendlier people
4
12
I am not very friendly to strangers as well so I don’t expect others to but it creates a fouler mood in all in general
Not a big deal but it does make every day pass a little smoother
5
Better weather
5
25
Not-so-good weather
2
10
This is quite important and is one of the key plusses of Sydney (especially for a nudist)
Based on my research, an average-minimum of 2 to 5ºC, the general gloominess and a longer cold period are all not that bad especially when Ision likes the cold and I have lived in New York (which is frigid in winter)
3
A more unsafe (with the druggos and winos) and dirtier city to live in (more polluted too)
2
6
Melbourne is safer and cleaner
4
12
Anyone can get used to it after a while so this is not too bad
People have told me Melbourne is a better city to raise kids—not important to me but I guess it can’t hurt
3
My friends who visit every-so-often have already seen Sydney
2
6
I can host my friends (and family) in a city that they have not been to
3
9
This gives them less reason to come visit me should I continue to stay in Sydney
This is important as I do miss my friends and family back home
4
I have an established social circle
5
20
I have to re-create a new social circle
2
8
Not a huge advantage because it is not that difficult to set up a new one
Not a big issue as I have done this several times before—the Victorian Aids Council would be a good starting point
3
A less artsy city
2
6
A more artsy city
4
12
I have lived with this fact for three-and-a-half years so it obviously is not a significant issue
Perhaps it is a better city to further promote and develop my musical and modelling talents
1
Good night-life and clubbing scene
5
5
Not-as-good night-life and clubbing scene
2
2
This is totally unimportant as I am not a clubber
Nothing is better than cuddling my bibi at home
4
Not a good city if you like coffee
3
12
Better cafés and coffees
5
20
The fact that coffee costs more in Sydney and tastes worse is quite unacceptable
I like to catch up with friends in cafes (not pubs) and so an excellent café-culture is very important and oh, I love coffee too
4
Have slippers and shorts will travel
4
16
More fashion-conscious populace
2
8
I am a more slippers-and-shorts kind of guy (more skin and less clothes = good) but having fashion-conscious people around you can't be too bad a thing
This is likely due to the colder weather and we all know the need for layers means greater choice of and need for fashion
3
More expensive shopping and less markets
2
6
Better and cheaper shopping, including more (and bigger) markets selling fresh produce
3
9
With my annual pilgrimage back to Asia for clothes-shopping, this is not going to be an important thing
This doesn’t really matter because shopping in general in Australia is much more expensive compared to Asia. The markets are a nice touch though
0
Other unimportant comparisons
2
0
Other unimportant comparisons
4
0
NRL, Star City, second best university, not been a capital city, no Melbourne Cup
AFL, Crown Casino, best university, first capital city, Melbourne Cup

Sydney
Total: 191
Melbourne
Total: 218

You may or may not know this by now but Ision and I are relocating to Melbourne in January 2012 (moving stuff on the 3rd and flying (one-way!) on the 4th) and I am starting my new role (within the same company) a week later. This has been in the books for quite a while now and the rejection by the company I am seconded to earlier this year was the final nail to the coffin (Melbourne was my first choice when I was planning my move to Australia anyway—read about my first job interview in Melbourne).

As of today, we have secured an apartment (taking over a friend’s) in the Melbourne CBD which is a stone’s throw away from anything you would possibly need (Chinatown, shopping, supermarket, gym and even my office), informed our current landlord of our last day of residence, found a tenant to continue our lease (they are moving in 2 days after we leave), paid the deposit for the cheapest interstate mover we could find, started throwing away unwanted stuff and packing.

Neither of us has lived in Melbourne before and so this would be a great new experience. I will be working in an office environment and can wear real office clothes at long last (no more worrying about messing my clothes up sleeping on the train or stepping into the refinery). The fact that I need not commute to work anymore (my new office is 1.6 km away from where I'll be living) also means that my working hours are much more flexible (I can finally gym before work)! All in all, there is really no reason for us to turn back at this point and I have not even looked at the final Sydney vs Melbourne scores from the table above!

Saturday, November 12, 2011

The Nude Singer's debut

For my friend’s big four-o last month, I performed at The Midnight Shift for his birthday party which was kind of a debut for The Nude Singer. I was fretting over the least cheesy way to incorporate both the “singer” and “nude” aspects and finally decided on the most appropriate option to reveal some flesh yet not appear too extreme—it was a debut after all.

I was rather satisfied with my performance and I also received a lot of good feedback but I think I will let you decide for yourself.



PS: As we started late, I was pushed to continue right after my first song without having a chance to plug my website. I will try harder next time—if only someone is willing to hire me to perform at their functions…

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Musical journey (19)

Thirty-two years have made me and passed me by on this day and I have never been prouder of what I have accomplished in life so far. More importantly I see my future in a very positive light and that is the best thing anyone can hope for in this day and age when it seems there isn’t much around us to be happy about. We all hope for hope.

We spend countless hours and untold number of calories complaining about life and what it has thrown us into. I do that too but I try my best to split my frustrations into solvable problems (short-term and long-term) and unsolvable problems. Once you categorise life’s challenges like that, you would have essentially eradicated all problems in your life because firstly you don’t really have to worry about unsolvable problems (since they are unsolvable!) and secondly a solvable problem is not a really a problem if you have a realistic plan to tackle it (and then follow through with it till the end). Life is complicated enough with all the greys in between the black and white so we have to compartmentalise and break it down into as many discrete bits as possible. This is but one of the ways I manage my life.

Another very crucial (if not the most) aspect of life is your relationship with yourself because it shapes every single thing you do, every single thought you will ever construct as well as the impact you have on others. I cannot repeat this cliché enough but you have got to love yourself first before anyone can love you and no one is going to do that hard work for you because they simply cannot. I shall not write another piece about loving yourself but suffice to say you have to put that as the top priority in your life before everything else. Unfortunately it takes maturity and some falling down to get it right as we all continue to learn more about ourselves throughout this journey.

Since no one can help you love yourself, if you have successfully done it, you can then claim all the credit—this is one of the best rewards you will ever get in life. This also makes you a much more independent person and someone who doesn’t spend his whole life pleasing other people. The world is a huge place full of different people, some of whom will hate you forever (with or without good reason to) and so it is wasted effort trying to get them on your side. Focus on the people who support you and make you feel good about yourself and weed out all the others. This is yet another way to simplify life by the act of compartmentalisation. Of course as you get more independent and sure of yourself, your tolerance for other people’s bullshit and drama will gradually drop and this is a good thing—just don’t let the aggravation become bitterness and alienate you from the rest of the world (think of a bitter old man all alone in a retirement home).

Before you accuse me of being too preachy, I must admit that I am also guilty of all the things that I know I shouldn’t be doing but at least I am aware of it. That is why looking (metaphorically) at yourself in the mirror once in a while is useful—it allows you to examine your current position, the things that are wrong with it and how you can redirect your path to a more desirable spot. I am but another student in this lecture called life and I have been in that classroom for thirty-two years as of today.

To celebrate this day, I have written myself a birthday song incorporating all that I have said earlier and then some. I hope you will find it both musically- and inspirationally-uplifting.


[Free]

Now's the time, say goodbye to your fears
Open your mind, you will find your dreams are so near

All you've got to do, is to love what's in you
'Cos there's no one who can do that for you
There's nothing to lose, you've got the right to choose
To embrace or hate yourself, it's up to you

The journey's not smooth, you'll fall and you'll bruise
But never give up what you've set out to do
That doesn't mean you have to play by the rules
Make your own and let them all follow you

You're free, believe in yourself
'Cos you know you can make it
And you'll see nothing can stand in your way
'Cos it's your right to be free so take it

Do what you have to, to find that real you
Out of the shadows of those in front of you
Only when you love you, you can find another to
Then every day will truly be worth waking up to

It's my time, my time to shine now and here
It's my life, everything's so bright and so clear
Thirty-two years have made me and passed me by
Right in front of me, I see nothing but light

I'm free, I'm me
And I know for certain who I'm gonna be
Take me or leave me
But I'll not let you say no to me

'Cos I'm free, I'm me
And I know for certain who I'm gonna be
Take me or leave me
Try as you might but there is no way that you can break me