Sunday, September 30, 2012

Social networking

Do you think it is rude for people to check their Facebook pages on their phones at the dinner table? Do you feel that there is something wrong with people who make Facebook feed-browsing their first and last things to do of the day? Do you get frustrated with people updating their statuses with the most trivial of activities?

Face it, the definition of social interaction and networking between human beings have changed. Either you get on board or get left behind. Insisting that an entire generation has lost its way when youths choose to spend their free time on social networking sites is not going to change this behaviour. And people can indeed get incredibly famous just by posting themselves on Youtube doing something silly if the video goes viral. This is the way it is going to be for a least the rest of the decade so get over it.

I was a late Facebook-joiner and only entered this new realm of social networking several years after Facebook was created. I have since used it to widen my gay social circle in a new country and to create a personal fan page to promote myself. Now I am a more subdued Facebook user and I think growing maturity has something to do with it. However one uses Facebook, I find that by looking at his or her status, one can quickly get a pretty good picture of how his or her life and personality is like (unless there is a conscious effort at fakery). To me, I see this as one of the time-saving advantages of living in this increasingly-hectic world. In addition, if you are like me and include current local and global affairs in your posts, it provides a very good snapshot of history (at least the bits that concern you). So now let me share with you mine for this month.

"Going to Harbour Town with my boo. No money left in my everyday transaction bank account and will not be tempted to part with any cash today so I am safe."

"Going for my first karaoke in Melbourne! Excited!"

"It's true. Once you know someone is gay, it is so hard to find an actor convincing when he plays straight. Case in point, a C grade Singaporean horror movie called  《靈聼》 Ghost on Air."

"All sympathies aside, don't all voluntary army enlistees know that they might be called into the Afghan war and hence are fully aware of the dangers they are opting into? If not, that should be the first topic in the pre-enlisting presentation."

"I have my take on why Australia is doing far better in the Paralympics than the Olympics. What's yours?"

"It is only a mobile phone model-upgrade and not the cure for AIDS or the end of the wars in the Middle East. Do you really need to get so worked up over it? Even the invention of mobile phones didn't kick up this much frenzy. Geez."

"Stuck on "Broken Arrow" now from The Script #3"

"Why is Pop Asia on SBS always only regard South Korea as Asia? How unrepresentative. I want my music from Hong Kong and Taiwan!"

"Just watched the documentary Miss Representation about how the portrayal of women in the media is all skewed, limited and wrong plus the consequent problems. Welcome to the world of the LGBTI community. In fact screw that -- at least women get portrayal. How many positive LGBTI role models in the media are out there for the community in comparison? Women should count themselves lucky."

"I am sure most of you have had encountered Red Cross volunteers asking you for a donation on the streets. Has any one of you told them in their face how you feel about how their blood donation rules are unfairly biased against gay people? And if so, what were their response?"

"Is the purpose of the opposition only to object to anything the government says? How can the wannabe attack the incumbent on what the current government failed to do when it is an impossibility for the wannabe in his current position to prove that he can do any better? It is like me telling you "I don't know why you are wrong and I cannot prove that you are wrong but I just know that you are wrong." How credible is that illogical argument?"

"Why am I so competitive on Words With Friends and Wordfeud? I can sometimes have a winning competitor and my next move against him weighing down in my mind for hours."

"Just saw an Asian girl holding her mother's hand as they head home from a day of shopping.... made me miss my mum."

"Why can't The New Normal just have a really normal gay couple? Is the American audience really deemed to be so dumb and narrow-minded that the producers have to feed them stereotypes that do not challenge anything? Disappointing."

"TV remote control is not working!! GASP! How will I survive this?!?!"

"Goodnight world. Yet another 9pm bedtime on a Friday night."

"I have always wondered... why do NRL players typically have a bigger built than those of AFL? Is it because of the game rules and strategies that require one group to be bigger in size?"

"It's spring time! And time for a topless jog in the park, starting in 5, 4, 3, 2, 1!"

"Just joined in the hope of joining a band as a song-writer/vocalist. Wish me luck!"

"Has any of you watched that controversial anti-Islamic film trailer? And what do you think of it?"

"I posted my picture on this page (called "Drop dead gorgeous Men of the World") and asked if I befit the page title. It's really nice to hear such a positive response from the page owner "I will definitely be posting some of your pics :)" And that is why my pics are now on the page and this is one of the ways I garner more hits on my blog. Win-win!"

"Just heard this on the news. On the issue of anonymous SMSes calling on Muslims to gather and rebel in Australia, elders have this advice for the community: "If you do not know the sender of the SMS, do not act on it." Can the advice be any more obvious???"

"Watching Insight on SBS now about whether Australia invests too much in sports funding and listening to Olympians whingeing about how little funding they get. What I want to ask them is why should anyone fund their dreams? They say they do it because they know how much they can inspire young people but I don't buy that as the main reason for them being in competitive sports. I think it is their love for sports that fuels them and everything else that comes with it eg. inspiring youths and doing the country proud with gold medals, etc are just secondary by-products. The bottom-line is: if I want to be a famous pop singer and have utmost passion for it, can I ask the country to fund me to do that?"

"Throughout history, do you think more people in the world have been helped or destroyed (including being killed) in the name of religion?"

"Why personals sites like Zoosk that target horny straight men out to look for sex advertise on gay apps like Scruff is totally beyond me. What happened to good old market research?"

"Indonesian festival at Southbank here we come!"

"Who wants to challenge me on Words With Friends and/or Wordfeud???"

"I know my blog doesn't gain enough hits to make this profitable but I've always contemplated monetizing my blog. However artistic integrity is my biggest concern -- ads popping up all over the place really hurts the look of the site! What do you think of the idea?"

"Can't believe I missed the birthday (3rd Sep 2112) of my favourite childhood icon. Happy belated pre-100th birthday Doraemon!"

"Can't believe I had oily (albeit yummy) roast duck for 2 meals today! I feel so fat now!"

"Topless jog on this nippy morning, here I come!"

"In this sports-mad nation, when Grand Finals Day is almost as big as the Melbourne Cup, why isn't today a public holiday?"

"Had a good time tonight having a proper sit-down dinner party with Ision Ensor at Nissa Ni's. I think this might be our first one in Melbourne since we've arrived. Talk about being anti-social!"

"Looking back at my weight chart over the 9 months I am in Melbourne, there is a clear dip in months when work has been stressful and a rise when it's been relaxing -- yet another nice thing about my ever-expanding life-spreadsheet."

"Nothing beats healthy snacks. Blueberry yoghurt topped with fresh strawberries."

After having read just a month worth of Facebook statuses, do you think you now know me a little bit better?

Sunday, September 16, 2012

Musical journey (27)

A lot of times breakups come very suddenly with no warning at all and worse still with no proper reason and hence no closure. This leaves the jilted stuck in a never-ending loop of asking questions that can never be answered. In this month's musical journey I am bringing you the story of someone facing such a predicament, something none of us wants but almost every one of us faces at one point in time in our love history.

This musical journey post is also a little different from the ones in the past as I will also be putting up the raw demo track I rudimentarily recorded as I was writing the song with nothing more than simple guitar chords, a notebook and a pen. You can see (or rather hear) that with just very simple accompaniment and a studio-recording of the track, it gets totally transformed. I really yearn to have my songs being professionally-arranged and -recorded one day for I am sure they can be even greater.

Also as spring starts here in Melbourne, what is more apt than a video of icicles melting? I hope you like this musical offering.


/ 词 / 曲 : 锦泉

灯熄灭, 寂寞蔓延

痛凝固约子夜, 两点
花在凋谢, 晚餐冷却



让他走, 他不会回头
转身走, 别再回头


You walked out of my world
I walked into the darkness of night
Lights out
Loneliness creeping
Reddened eyes

The heart starts to fissure
Pain goes into form from midnight to 2 a.m.
Flowers wilting
Dinner's cooling
Eyes never leaving the screen of the phone

When love came I held on tight
Why did you force me to let go
I have given all of my heart
Which is still not enough in the end

When I summoned all my courage
To ask for a reason why
“We’re too different” is all you could say
Why then did you choose me from the start

Let him go
For he will never turn back
It’s time to turn around
And never look back