It's my second full day back home and I'm glad the weather has turned slightly cooler. Well, I'm heading off to Singapore for two weeks very soon, so I guess I can't avoid stifling heat for much longer anyway. I've been so stressed this past hitch at work and so sick of people, especially those not doing what they were employed to do (and they are the expensive expats, mind you)! 2025 will be an aggressive cost-cutting year for the company and I SO hope they all get cut off by December! I now have a few weeks to temporarily forget this pet peeve of mine and try to enjoy my time off. It usually takes a few days for me to start totally relaxing and I'm slowly getting there.
February is coming to an end and I wonder how you've spent your Valentine's Day. I used to detest this Hallmark holiday like a lot of people, but as I catch up with maturity, I've come to realise that Valentine's Day is just another available tool couples have in their chest to enhance their relationships. In this age of instant gratification where everything is made to be disposable and obsolete by design, boy do we need more tools than ever to give us a boost in this journey. And no, unless you're attached to an android, no amount of sophisticated A.I. can help you there.
Regardless of how much people deny it, all long-term relationships (straight, gay or everywhere in between) go through the "itchy" phase at some point and how you deal with that is how you're going to make or break them. You can be all jealous while cheating yourself (or having thoughts of cheating) and cling desperately onto the moral high horse you're almost falling off from, or you can be honest about it and achieve a mutual understanding that works for everyone involved (usually in the form of open relationships). We're all adults and we need to behave like logical adults, even in matters of the heart.
This month's musical offering is all about the "seventh year itch". In this new composition, both parties have acted on the itch but don't know for sure their partner has done it or not. They both fervently but secretly hope that the other person has, as that means that happiness, no matter how short-lived or sordid they perceive it to be, has been found. Not everyone can easily or painlessly leave a long-term relationship (like when spawn is in the picture), and so although their love story is imperfect, they are still working hard at making it last. And you all should too. Because only when a balanced compromise is attained can you truly stop itching (and hopefully not because you're already numb!).
[七年不痒]
不定不安不受控
呼吸颤抖着孤单
指尖挑逗着贪婪
黑夜有谁能来相伴
脑海里犹豫的冲动
互相抵触想也想不通
是你不羁的浪漫
还是寂寞已泛滥
感情总有一天会变淡
七年之痒敲动心房
叫我怎抵挡
回音里找温暖，我再也不想
面对这四面墙
七年不痒不是妄想
爱过的心已死亡
饥饿地，无奈地，焦躁地渴望
一个吻也觉得勉强
莫名奇妙的蠢蠢欲动
神智不清搞也搞不懂
你倒不怎么好看
我也没特别喜欢
想任性地跟理性作战
七年之痒错乱方向
有谁能阻挡
小心地，放纵地，哀怨地盼望
你瞧我这模样
七年不痒不算夸张
忍耐成了信仰
希望这次值得后悔的一尝
被囚禁的能得到释放
希望你侥幸地也和我一样
一起骚着七年之痒
[Seventh Year (Without) Itch]
Unsettled and uncontrolled
Breaths trembling with loneliness
Fingertips flirting with avarice
Who can accompany the darkness of night
Hesitant impulses filling my head
Fighting each other and baffling me
Is it your unbridled romanticism
Or has loneliness become a deluge
Love will always one day become weak
The seventh year itch knocking on my heart
How can I resist it
Trying to find warmth amongst echoes
I do not want to face these four walls anymore
Seven years without itch is not wishful thinking
When the heart which once loved has died
Hungrily, reluctantly and impatiently hoping
For even that one kiss seems forced
Being tempted inexplicably
And no longer thinking straight
He is not that good-looking
And I do not like him that much
Just want to willfully fight with rationality
The seventh year itch messing up my sense of direction
Who can resist it
Cautiously, wantonly and sadly wishing
For you to look me in this state
Seven years without itch is not an exaggeration
When tolerance has become a religion
Hope this regrettable decision
Is able to release all that is imprisoned
Hope you are also like me fortunately
Together scratching this seventh year itch
