Saturday, May 28, 2016

Musical journey (70)

Hello from super hot and humid Singapore! I’ve always wanted to attend Pink Dot ever since its inception but the timing was always not right but this year I finally am here for the big event. I was hoping it to take place at night but it will be held in the day this time. I’m so looking forward to being topless with ultra short shorts! I need to get myself a pink pair as soon as possible!

This month’s musical post is one of my first English compositions penned about 15 to 20 years ago (I am so effing old!). This is also a song not from personal experience (I remember I simply wanted to write about an imaginary love story). Needless to mention it’s a gay love story although you cannot really tell from the sexuality-neutral lyrics. The plot is simple–X cheats on Y and thinks that Y doesn’t know. However Y knew a long time ago but let X slide because of how much he loves him.

As you know I never choose scenes from straight movies for my music clips and this one is no different. Personally I feel that this piece is not easy to sing as its range is stuck at the point where you have to switch back and forth between your real voice and falsetto but I tried my best in the recording. I hope you can hear the sadness in my voice as I tried to sing out the desperation Y feels as X slides further and further away from him.


I hear you call out my name, I started to cry
As I run down the stairs right after our fight
The love I have for you hasn't actually died
But giving you one more chance again, I'm too tired to try

Thinking back how we started, before all the lies
We were meant for each other, things just seemed right
Then he came along, someone you tried to hide
But try as you might you don't know I knew it inside

And I let you have your way, I'm often asked why
'Cos I love you and that is why I let you

Slide, slide past the pain in my heart and I let you
Slide, slide away out of sight with your lies
Every night you're with him, every night that I've cried
And I can do it no more, yet I can't help it but let you

Slide, slide from the grasp of my hand, still I let you
Slide, slide from the mess you left in my life
Make love to me tonight for the very last time
So that your touch in my mind, I can memorize


Your touch in my mind, I can memorise

Saturday, May 21, 2016

Work it! (part 6)

Hello from civilisation (i.e. not-Papua New Guinea) once again! I hope you’ve enjoyed my workout series so far but I guess all good things must come to an end and here’s my last post in this series (previous posts can be found here: 1 2 3 4 5 6). In this entry I’ll write about some of my more interesting gym encounters.

I sometimes get compliments from people in the gym and they are mostly for my legs as they’re quite muscular and I do wear very short shorts (and no underwear so I’m always on the verge of flashing myself in the gym!). That in itself is not that interesting but I’ve noticed that Melbournians are much more reserved than Sydney-siders when it comes to dishing out compliments. I think the much higher proportion of gay people in the Sydney gyms I used to frequent (Kings Cross and Oxford Street) might be the most likely reason. We all know that the gym is sometimes referred to as the gay church when in fact we’re all much more religious than most church-goers as we hit the gym more than once a week. It’s literally survival-of-the-fittest in the gay scene so we’re constantly pushing ourselves to worship the various gym equipment (and eye candies in the steam room *wink wink*). 

Talking about cruising in the gym, I remember one outrageous time in Singapore when a gym marketer tried to sell me a membership. She asked a series of questions to confirm that I was gay and then get this, she actually said that the showers at that branch were extremely cruisy and that much action took place there! How desperate must she have been to use that as a selling point! Well it’s actually not that surprising given that it was California Fitness, notorious for its hard-sell tactics and crazy promotions to lure people in. In comparison Fitness First is more of a luxury brand in Singapore and free towels and workout clothing are provided (if only the Australian branches offered those too).

One of the strangest things I have not seen yet in a gym toilet is a person taking a selfie. With so many gym selfies online, you’d think that it’d be easy to bump into a selfie-taking person in my 15 years of gymming. I for one do that a lot and am completely unashamed of it especially when the urge to be naked is coupled with being all sexy and horny after a great workout. Oh and I don’t understand why people don’t go completely naked in the steam room. I guess not everyone is as exhibitionistic as me. I wish there was a topless or even nude gym in Melbourne–I would be the first to sign up! I’ve also met celebrities in the Melbourne gym before. In fact I bumped into two within a single visit once - Josh Thomas and a topless Kris Smith in the changing room wearing just a towel around his waist (MAJOR yum!).

I’m glad that I’ve now left Papua New Guinea for good as this means that I finally don’t have to work out in a rundown gym full of cobwebs around machines in a building that does not have air-conditioning which can become a sauna if you exercise after work. However the impending relocation to our new place would mean that I’ll need to explore new gyms as there isn’t a Fitness First nearby. Right now the contenders are Vision, Jetts, Anytime Fitness and Hawthorne Aquatic and Leisure Centre. I’m planning to try all of them out for free before signing up (the Aquatic Centre is just opposite the apartment so I’m leaning towards that currently).

In this series I’ve provided you with some insight into a very important part of my life and hopefully have also given you some motivation to start your fitness journey if you’re looking for some. To conclude, here’s another delicious clip of me flexing. I’ll be heading to Singapore in a few days and I can tell you that’s going to be a break from the freaking Papua New Guinea mess that I urgently need. See you all very soon!

Flexing #2:

Saturday, May 14, 2016

Work it! (part 5)

In this fifth post of my workout series (the rest of the series is here: 1 2 3 4 6) I will share with you some gym tips. I’m not an expert myself but for a person who has 15 years of gym experience, I think I’m somewhat qualified to dole out some workout advice.

First you need to have a reason why you want to work out. This sounds obvious but it’s a very important part of any fitness goal. Once you have a reason, you can always come back to it when you feel unmotivated or too lethargic to stick to your routine. Personally I started going to the gym to pull myself out of low self-esteem when I accepted the superficial fact that gays only like fit and muscular guys. Hence to survive in the gay dating scene (and I was desperate to get attached at that time) I had no choice but to hit the gym and get some muscles. When I started to see results and the compliments rolled in, the motivation to work out grew. It’s important to surround yourself with people who love you and shower you with praises. Like I always say, I’d rather be a narcissist than a self-hater. However the body improvements have plateaued a long time ago and now I’m just repeating the same routine over and over again to maintain what I think is the ideal build for me. I’m a disciplined person but I’m also human (i.e. lazy) so I’m not willing to put in that extra effort to get that minimal improvement. Also I am not too tall so I really shouldn’t get too muscular as being proportioned is very important to me.

Another very important tip when it comes to maintaining motivation is to choose a gym as close to your home as possible, preferably within walking distance. If that’s not possible, choose one that’s on your way to or from work. I prefer to work out before work as that lifts your energy level for the rest of the day. Also you’ll have more flexibility to work longer hours if required and not have to worry about having to go to the gym. The bottom line is you have to give yourself as little reason as possible to not work out. When you’re at the gym, make your routine as varied as possible so that you can choose a different machine or use free weights for instance and still work the same muscle when a particular station is occupied. A varied routine also targets different muscle areas and makes working out less boring. If you’re starting a routine, it’s good to track the weight that you lift and the number of reps you do so that you can make appropriate increases as you get stronger. If you’re trying to lose weight, tracking your weight and body fat percentage regularly is a must. I used to do it daily and some people think that’s over-the-top (I now do it twice a week).

You also have to be honest with yourself when it comes to your fitness goals. If you know you’re not going to stick to a routine or go to the gym, stop paying your gym membership and end the contract. Having people sign up to a gym membership and then have them not using the gym is one of the key ways gyms make money. Do not delude yourself thinking that somehow you’ll get fitter just by having a gym you can use when you want to. You have to get your ass down and work out for real to see improvements! There are many body-weight exercises you can do without going to a gym and you can also go for a jog outside if you want some cardio. Having a gym membership is not mandatory to get fit. Another way to save money would be to freeze your membership and pay a lower fee every time you’re not going to use the gym for a while. Ever since my Papua New Guinea stints started, I’ve frozen my membership for 23 fortnights and that has saved me almost $800.

What I have mentioned in this post is simply extracted from my personal experience and might not be applicable to you. At the end of the day your fitness journey is something very personal and any advice you read or get from other people should always be taken in with a pinch of salt. Let me conclude by offering another piece of advice. There’s always going to be people in the gym who look better than you and you shouldn’t be comparing yourself with them especially when that makes you feel inferior. Working out in the gym should make you feel better about yourself and not the opposite. Remember that you’re already better than most people if you work out regularly so stop being unfair to yourself.

Now that we’re done with words, we can finally move on to the videos. The two clips in this post feature abs and back. Enjoy!



Saturday, May 7, 2016

Work it! (part 4)

OMFG! I know this is coming but I didn’t expect it to be so soon. Ision has just bought an apartment in Hawthorne and we will be moving into it at the end of next month or so (that is if there are no other competitors that can outbid him)! Now that I am my husband’s rent-paying tenant, will I be given the standard tenant rights I wonder? Jokes aside, it will be a stressful period for me as I will be facing both an impending joblessness and this move into a new place. They say things always happen either not at all or all at once and they are so right. Anyway I will worry about all that when I am back from my Singapore vacation in the first week of June and I will post the latest developments then.

OK, updates over. It’s now time for the next post in my workout series (the other posts are here: 1 2 3 5 6). I am very focussed in the gym and hence I always come across as anti-social when I’m working out (i.e. I can never be someone else’s gym buddy). I know that I should smile more as that’s basic cruising etiquette but like I said before, when I’m on the gym floor I have only one goal and that’s to get my routine done so I can go do other things Yes, you may be surprised to know that I don’t like to go to the gym. Who does?!

As a result of my being super focussed, one of my pet peeves is when I’m asked to spot someone else. In my opinion if you need a spotter, you’re doing it too heavy and I’m not going to subject myself to the risk of injuring you if something goes wrong during spotting. I wouldn’t ask someone to spot for me because I don’t want to put my life in the hands of a complete stranger. Another sign that people might be going too heavy is when they grunt and this is also another major pet peeve of mine. There are some people who just like to grunt to attract attention and they’re not even doing heavy weights! The worst is when females grunt and yes they do. I already hate it when hot men grunt, can you imagine how frustrating it is to hear women do it?

There’s also some rude behaviour that really pisses me off in the gym. For instance I detest people who work out in groups and then chat around a machine, hogging it in the process. If you want to socialise go to a pub because a gym is not the place to do it. Some people also play with their phones in between sets on the machine but nothing is worse than the time when I saw a person reading the newspaper on a machine! Simply outrageous! Another way people are impolite in the gym is when they have body odour. Maintaining basic hygiene is everyone’s duty especially when you’re in a public space. Subjecting people to BO is plain rude. However there’s really no solution to this problem and we just have to execute perfect breath-timing when these smelly people walk past (I am an expert now that I've been in Papua New Guinea for a while).

Well whingeing is not going to solve any of the above problems and I guess these pet peeves will remain forever as long as I can’t afford my own private gym. To thank you guys for putting up with my whining I’m now going to share two short workout videos. These clips feature the chest and biceps, the two major muscle groups everyone must train in order to look impressive in tight-fitting clothes, which I do!